Your people
These three are examples. Swap in your own friends. Nothing you type leaves your browser.
Your Friendship Drift Score
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Who to reach out to first
Start with the friendship that's drifted furthest. A short hello is enough. It doesn't have to be a big catch-up.
Tap a name to see it in the app. Try WhatsApp on the phone for a ready-to-send message.
A preview of the Reach Out app
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Friendships rarely end. They fade when nobody makes the first move. Reach Out keeps your closest friends in one place and nudges you to check in before anyone starts to drift.
Questions people ask
Is it normal to lose touch with friends after moving abroad?
Very. Distance removes the small, unplanned moments that kept a friendship going: the run-ins, the last-minute dinners. Time zones make it harder still. Drifting usually doesn't mean anyone stopped caring. It means nobody had an easy reason to reach out.
How do I keep in touch with friends back home?
Pick a few people who matter most instead of trying to keep up with everyone. Decide roughly how often you want to talk with each of them. Voice notes work well across time zones, because nobody has to be free at the same moment. And be the one who makes the first move.
How do I reconnect with a friend after a long time?
Keep it short and warm. You don't need to explain the silence. Say you were thinking of them and ask one specific question about their life. Most people are glad to hear from an old friend, even after years.
Is anything I type saved?
No. The Drift Score runs entirely in your browser. Names and answers are never sent to a server or stored anywhere, and they're gone when you close the page.
What is Reach Out?
Reach Out is a small app for iPhone and Android that keeps your closest friends in one place, nudges you when it's been a while, and gets you to a message, voice note or call in seconds. The free plan covers up to five friends, and Premium covers up to 25. It's launching soon. See how it works.
How the score works
Each friend gets a score from 1 to 100 based on three things: how long it's been since you really talked, how close you were, and how you usually stay in touch. Your overall score is the average across everyone you add.
Closeness sets the clock. Close friendships need contact more often, so they drift sooner when you go quiet.
| Best friend | about every 2 weeks |
| Close friend | about monthly |
| Good friend | about every 2 months |
Depth counts. Time together keeps a friendship stronger than a like on a post.
| In person | full weight |
| Call or video | nearly full |
| Texting | partial |
| Social likes only | light |
The bands.
| 70–100 | Solid |
| 45–69 | Cooling |
| 20–44 | Drifting |
| 1–19 | Fading |
The score falls gradually the longer you go past your usual rhythm, so it never hits zero. The reach-out order puts the lowest scores first and gives best friends a little priority. This is a gentle prompt for reflection, not a scientific measure of any friendship.